It’s a dangerous word

Slut. One of the worst things you can call someone, especially a woman. It is one of the many words and concepts that comes with a double edged sword, that has an unfair burden upon women. It is basically what a man does to get pride and status. If a man has multiple sexual partners, he is seen as a hero, brave, and fulfilling his duties as a “man”. If a woman has the same behavior, oh my goodness, is she the worst person in the world. Nevermind the dictators and disastrous people in this world, both past and present, that have killed thousands of people. Nevermind the lawmakers putting into place laws that control women and pretty much disable the poor and minorities. If a woman has more than one sexual partner, especially out of marriage, my goodness are they just wicked, dastardly people.

The word slut has many definitions, which is interesting because it is used so much but does not have a single specific definition. Most of them hover around a woman who has multiple sexual partners. Other definitions are “a woman who acts like a man”. Dictionary.com defines it as “Obsolete a dirty, slovenly woman”. There, at the first word, is obsolete which is exactly what it is.

To address this issue, with the help of the wonderful Jennifer Baumgardner, there will be a presentation called exactly that. SLUT. It will be: 

Thursday May 1, 2014
7pm @ Ecce Art Gallery, 216 N. Broadway

Saturday May 3, 2014
3:00pm @ Century Theater, NDSU, 1401 Administration Ave.

Tickets are $5 for students, $10 for general admission

The tickets can be purchased at the door, or online atwww.slutheplay.com

And here is a picture that I encourage you to save, download, and share to the world. Especially the F-M community so everyone can see it.

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Laci Green Photos

Laci Green was PACKED! There were so many people that when the chairs filled up (in about 10 minutes) people were sitting in front of the screen on the floor, all the way on the sides, and even out in the hallway looking into the doors to hear what Laci Green had to say about the BEST SEX EVER.

Although that is what the tagline was, partly to be cheeky, and partly to be accurate, Laci Green’s presentation deals with bigger issues. Her videos span across multiple topics of all different kinds of issues, such as gender identity, consent, how to have nonheterosexual sex, and many, many more. The presentation at NDSU was packed for a reason: People want to know about sex. And not just the “don’t have sex or you will die” speech. About how to actually have safe and enjoyable sex. I was not able to attend the other Sex Ed event put on campus earlier in the year, but I would guess this was more attended.

Yes, there were pictures. Yes, she went into detail upon detail about pretty much everything. However, with a few minor joking aside, she was very serious and treated everything as normal. She knew how important the information she had was, and how crucial it is for it to be accessible to us college students. With rates of teenage pregnancy and STIs high in North Dakota, she came just at the right time. If you were not able to go to the presentation, I was lucky enough to get there just in time to catch a spot on the wall. This gave me the perfect opportunity to take a few pictures to create a sort-of-panorama of the event to show how busy it was. Also, there are student taken images included as well, and shall be updated constantly.

 

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Consent

*Trigger Warning: sexual assault*

Consent is something that should be in everyone’s mind at all times. It should be as easy as breathing. However, with 1 in 3 women in the world experiencing sexual assault or violence, it is not as common as it should be. The Violence Prevention Educator program on campus has been hard at work the past 4 years, along with the help of many local organizations such as the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center, dealing with sexual assault and trying to prevent it. If you ever get a chance, please come to any of the events the Violence Prevention Educator program help set up. It will knock for socks off, almost literally.

 

For more info about the Violence Prevention Educators, and that they do, check out: https://www.facebook.com/PreventionEducators

As well as, if you, or anyone you know of has on campus, there is help available. Please call the SARA helpline at:

701-730-6149

It is completely free and confidential. The staff has had numerous, numerous hours of training.

 

Consent doesn’t even have to be about sexual assault. It can be as simple as someone taking your car keys and driving your car because “you didn’t say no” or other misconceptions about consent. Instead of doing a bulleted list, or getting a cool fancy powerpoint to talk about consent, I will have Laci Green talk about it! Since Laci Green is coming up on FRIDAY APRIL 4TH AT 7:30 IN SUDRO 24. 

 

It was just posted today so you get to be one of the first people in the world to watch the video! Feel special, because you are. Hope everyone’s spring break went fantastic!

Laci Green

As you may know, April 4th is when Lacy Green is coming to NDSU. However, many people do not know who she is, or why other people are so freakin excited for her to be here.

Basically, Lacy Green has become a youtube sensation and hosts her youtube series SEX+  She discusses a lot of myths and problems with society’s views of sex, relationships and gender. She brings facts and research to discuss, in a very spunky and fun way, different ways things are viewed and why some ways of viewing things may be harmful to women, or even society in general. If you are interested, please check her out on youtube. She is fantastic!

And below you will see some I have selected for you all to check out, that highlight some key topics and represent her usual way of making her videos. So, feel free to listen to Lacy Green talk about stuff…

Such as Virginity

Or, can women and men be friends?

Why are things made to be “manly” for men to buy them?

What does a Feminist look like?

The stereotypical view of a Feminist is a hairy, manly, aggressive looking lesbian man hater. This is incredibly not accurate. Feminists come in all shapes and sizes, all nationalities, all gender expressions and sexual orientations. Although what it means to be a Feminist differs depending upon the person, and wave, that you ask, however, what they look like is not confined to any flavor of humanity. Here, below, are some examples from NDSU of what they may look like.

Also, if you want a really sweet tshirt to proclaim to the world that you too are a Feminist, follow this link:

http://store.feminist.org/thisiswhatafeministlookslikeunisexblacktee-1.aspx

 

 

Women’s Week

Women’s Week is upon us once again this year. There have been some absolutely fantastic events, discussing topics from Feminist Theory to Sexual Assault in the military. There are more events coming up dealing with Roe vs Wade, finding one’s inner self and other diverse topics. For a further list of events check out:

http://www.ndsu.edu/news/view/detail/11923/

Activism comes in many flavors and varieties. Some, such as Women’s Week, may be more academically inclined in it’s setup and content. Some, however, differ from the academic setting involving protests, demonstrations, and if done effectively, a peaceful message. Here is an example of such kind of activism:

 


As we brace this terrible “polar vortex” that seems to be going on for ever,  attend a Women’s Week event. Or talk to a friend about something in society that troubles you. Or even just stay warm drinking your hot cocoa scrolling through your Facebook news feed.

Mercedes Lee on Sexism and Women’s Bodies

Below is an article from NDSU’s Mercedes Lee on the many pressures and illogical expectations of Women’s bodies. This is evident in almost every commercial geared towards women, whether it be about tampons “empowering” women, products for hair, hygiene products for various body parts, or even clothing.

“Ovary Acting”

The Not-So-Subtle Sexism of High Expectations for Women’s Bodies

Mercedes Lee

We live in a society that puts a lot of pressure on expecting men and women to look a certain

way. Corporations have spent billions of dollars perfecting an ideal beauty standard that

forces individuals to spend time, effort, and money trying to achieve this unachievable perfect

appearance. Although men are also plagued with the constant insecurities that accompany a

desire to attain an ideal beauty standard, it is women who have faced the harshest, most severe

criticisms regarding their bodies. Women spend countless hours maintaining an appearance

that has been prescribed by corporations whose goal is not to make women happier about their

bodies, but simply to make a profit off of women’s insecurities. This phenomenon has led to a

cultural crisis. Women are expected to dress nicely, wear makeup that accentuates their features,

and maintain a hairless body while simultaneously having a golden tan, big breasts, flawless

skin, a flat stomach, manicured nails, and professionally styled hair.

Now, not everyone buys into this ideal beauty standard, and some women do claim to partake

in cultural beauty practices for their own benefit – because they want to look good. That is

fine. I have no problem with wanting to look nice. Sometimes I get dressed up when I know

that I probably will only leave my apartment to go to the grocery store, but I do it anyways

because I feel better when I look nice. It is great to feel good in your own body, so that is not

what causes the cultural crisis to occur. No, the cultural crisis occurs when women become so

dissatisfied with their own bodies that they can no longer enjoy their life. When women are so

self-conscious about their appearance that they refrain from eating or only have sex with the

lights turned off, that is when we have to ask ourselves what demanding bodily perfection has

done to women.

I could spend hours discussing the many downfalls of maintaining an ideal beauty standard;

however, for the sake of time and space I am only going to discuss a particular aspect that I find

especially disturbing: women’s clothing.

With Fargo-Moorhead becoming a more culturally progressive area, there also seems to be an

increase in fashion awareness, which, as you may have noticed, has led to an increase in the

number of women’s boutiques popping up around town. While it is great to see growth in the F-
M area, this particular area of growth has left me curious as to what a heightened fashion sense

could mean for cultural beauty expectations in this area. Now, as much as I hate to reinforce

stereotypes regarding certain characteristics or qualities that have been gendered through societal

expectations and cultural conventions, I have to confess that I do really enjoy shopping. I

love walking around downtown Fargo and stopping in at each of the boutiques along the way.

However, I have noticed a somewhat disturbing trend among clothing carried in these stores,

and while I do not think that it is the fault of the shops themselves, it does leave me a little

disappointed after each shopping venture.

First of all, the mannequins in these stores look as though they are prepubescent teenage girls

awaiting the onset of their ‘womanly bodies’. The clothing is not made for women with butts,

or breasts, or even hips. It is true that women’s bodies come in a variety of shapes and sizes,

and there are, in fact, women who are naturally thin, small-breasted, and narrow-hipped.

Criticizing women for being too skinny is just as detrimental as criticizing women for being too

big; however, because there is diversity amongst women’s bodies, I would like to see diversity

amongst clothing sizes as well. Women are faced with enough criticisms regarding their body

via media, beauty corporations, and even well-meaning family and friends – I would just like to

see fashionable clothing available in sizes meant to fit a variety of women’s bodies. If it means

ordering an XL, 2XL, or other larger sizes, then I say go for it – it only means more business for

our local women’s clothing retailers.

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